How to check if you’re being lied to on a Casual dating site
At the first glance, online dating might seem pretty simple and you may think of it as a cakewalk, but let me assure you there a lot of things that you need to keep in mind while engaging in casual online dating. If you aren’t careful, things could turn out pretty bad for you emotionally, and therefore you need to exercise a lot of caution. With the right approach you could stand to gain a lot from such sites, but with a few bad mistakes you could end up a pretty big loser in your own eyes.
In online dating it is really important to know whether the person is pretending to be someone else and it is pretty easy to find out whether they are lying about themselves in order to strike up a lively conversation and rapport with you. There are four really popular ways to find out if you are being lied to.
First, make it a point to ask the person about their area of interest, making sure you ask them really direct questions. If the person hesitates or gives you ambiguous answers then you need not focus on such a person as they are clearly lying to you.
Secondly, make it a point to note down whatever details the person gives you in your subsequent conversations. If the person tells you things later which contradict what they said initially, then ask them about it and if they fumble or try to cover up by making up a story, then it is clear that you are being lied to you and it would be in your best interest to look for people who are actually sincere in what they say, and are as serious about this whole thing as you.
Ask the person a few general questions, like what kind of relationship are they looking for or what they actually want in the relationship. Note down these answers and ask the same questions again after a few encounters. If the person is evasive or indirect, then you should know that the person is not being honest with you.
Also another way of finding out whether you’re being lied to is that you could pretend that you have already chatted with that person, asking him if he or she were some person and offering comments like how nice it was talking to them the previous day. If the other person falls for the ruse and strikes up a conversation with you on the basis of a lie, then it is highly likely that the person frequently chats with people under fake IDs and is not at all serious about the concept of online dating.
You could also ask the other person to exchange phone numbers with you simultaneously and tell them that you are just being cautious. If the person is serious and has nothing to hide, he or she will understand and not object. But if the other person is hesitant and objects to mutual exchange of numbers then you should know that you are better off dumping that person.